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Someone yelled and suddenly I was the story

I am posting this before I talk myself into being the reasonable one again. I kept a boundary and got called selfish. I was dealing with the friend who normally defends me at a birthday dinner nobody wanted to spoil.

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#Situations · Aug 31

#Situations

I am posting this before I talk myself into being the reasonable one again.

I kept a boundary and got called selfish. I was dealing with the friend who normally defends me at a birthday dinner nobody wanted to spoil. The cake candles were burning while nobody spoke. I wanted to be the bigger person and lasted maybe eight minutes.

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Wanting credit for the work I actually did. It made more sense in my head than it does written down. The person I confronted had already apologized privately. The next gathering now has two separate invitations. I kept correcting one irrelevant detail.

Fairness matters more to me when I feel overlooked.

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