I said no to my partner's family and now I am the villain

#Situations

I was with their parent criticizing my career when this turned into a whole thing.

What happened was one sibling wants equal control after doing unequal work. I asked one direct question and the answer made the whole thing worse. I was dealing with their parent criticizing my career after my partner stayed silent. The television kept playing to an empty room. The whole thing would be easier if I did not also kind of want them embarrassed.

I wanted to know whether silence meant agreement or fear. I did not say that part out loud. My partner confronted them later in private. The next dinner invitation is unanswered. Now everyone is acting around it, and the person keeping the secret is being asked directly I waited for eye contact that never came.

The thing I cannot get past is this. Support that nobody sees may not feel like support.