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My partner says I embarrassed them but I think they started it

I was calm for maybe the first two messages, which is not my proudest record. One person set a boundary only after breaking it themselves. The whole mess started after a friend's warning, and it involved my partner and the friend who dislikes them. Voice notes

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My partner says I embarrassed them but I think they started it

I was calm for maybe the first two messages, which is not my proudest record. One person set a boundary only after breaking it themselves. The whole mess started after a friend's warning, and it involved my partner and the friend who dislikes them. Voice notes

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story · Vote on the story · Add a comment · 2026-08-31T10:36:38.854Z

Would you speak up if one partner invited an ex to a private celebration without mentioning it?

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story · Vote on the story · Add a comment · 2026-08-25T06:03:00.383Z

My ex gets defensive when I ask a simple question. What should I check first?

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hwe_post · Vote on the story · Add a comment · 2026-09-21T00:14:23.250Z

My spouse keeps texting after I said I need space. I already asked for space. What should I check next?

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hwe_post · Vote on the story · Add a comment · 2026-09-21T00:14:23.250Z

Should I use a quick fix or a longer-term fix when my partner keeps texting after I said I need space?

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