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Should I keep our weekend language lesson when my son says it's all corrections?

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"Grandma wants a chat. You turn it into a test." My ten-year-old said that after I stopped his video call twice to correct words in our family language.

He understands quite a bit and answers mostly in English. I worry that without practice he will stop using the language altogether. We have a Saturday workbook session, and I bought a new book because the old one was too easy. He has started asking whether he can skip the call if he completes the pages.

That was not the bargain I wanted. My mother says she is happy to hear about his football match in whichever words he has. I keep correcting because I want him to have more than a few greetings when he is older.

The workbook takes half an hour. That is also the time his friends meet in the park, so it isn't a neutral addition to the weekend. How would you keep a place for the language without making talking to Grandma the thing he has to earn his way out of?

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Let the call belong to the two people having it. Your mother has said what she wants: his news. Correcting him mid-story interrupts that relationship in pursuit of another goal. You can discuss language practice separately instead of making Grandma's conversation the assessment session.

Your wish for him to have the language later is understandable. He is counting the Saturday minutes he loses now. Put both interests on the table and ask him what kind of practice he would willingly try. A shorter session at another time might cost him less than the current park-time lesson.

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