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I kept the best ticket and acted as though the seats had been assigned at random

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Three friends paid me back for tickets to a play. When I sent the seat numbers, I said, 'Looks like I've ended up in the middle.' I had chosen that seat for myself.

All four tickets cost the same and were in the same row. I preferred the middle and placed myself there before handing out the others. Nobody asked for that position, but nobody got the chance to ask either. I made it sound like a result none of us controlled.

The evening went fine. Now the group wants me to book another show, and a friend said it was good that I'd distributed the seats fairly last time.

Do I correct that compliment and admit the choice, or just offer everyone a say this time? It's a small advantage, but I don't like being trusted for fairness I quietly bypassed.

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The next booking is a good moment to make the choice visible. Send the available seats before assigning them and ask whether anyone has a preference. That is a concrete way to handle the trust the group is placing in you.

The middle was your preferred seat, not necessarily everyone else's. You don't need to describe yourself as having taken the objectively best ticket. The unfair part was keeping the preference private while presenting the allocation as random.

A brief correction could fit the compliment: 'I should say I chose the middle for myself last time. Let's all choose this time.' That owns the action without making your friends sit through a long explanation of why you liked that position.

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