I complained about my neighbour's piano after she didn't invite me to her gathering
ConfessionsI'd heard the piano at five in the afternoon for months. Last week was the first time I went upstairs and asked her to stop for the day.
Earlier that week she had held a small gathering with several people from our building. I wasn't invited. We chat in the lift and have exchanged favours, so I felt foolish for assuming we were becoming friends.
When the piano started a few days later, it suddenly seemed inconsiderate. I told her I couldn't settle into my evening. She apologized and said she'd rearrange her practice time. Watching her find a solution made me feel worse: I wasn't upset about a new noise. I was upset about a guest list.
The music can be distracting, but the timing of my complaint wasn't honest. Should I tell her the whole petty reason, or simply say she doesn't need to change her routine on my account? I don't want an apology to become a disguised request for an invitation next time.