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How do I ask my partner to stop correcting small details while I'm telling a story?

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"It was Wednesday, not Tuesday," my partner said while I was telling friends how we'd ended up at the wrong picnic spot. A minute later he corrected the colour of the sign. Then he added the street name I had forgotten.

The corrections were accurate. They also meant I kept losing my place, and eventually I said, "You tell it, then." The table went quiet. On the walk home, he said I'd embarrassed him for trying to help.

I hadn't been trying to mislead anyone. The point was that we'd both followed different directions and arrived carrying half a picnic each. He says getting details wrong makes the story confusing, and sometimes he has been right about that. But I was about to get to the two bags of bread when I gave up.

How would you explain the difference between a useful correction and an interruption without asking him to ignore every mistake? I also need to apologise for the way I snapped.

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The moment you gave up is vivid: everyone got the correct sign colour and nobody got the two bags of bread. Tell him that the help changed the experience of telling it. You can appreciate his memory and still want to finish a sentence before he adds a detail.

Apologise for "You tell it, then" without making the apology an agreement that the interruptions were fine. Something like "I made that sharp in front of everyone, and I'm sorry" owns your part. The conversation about when to add details can come after that.

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