Can I ask my husband to put some effort into the gifts we sign together?
RelationshipsMy husband wrote both our names on his mother's birthday card and said, "Sorted." I'd chosen the present, arranged the collection and remembered to buy the card. He thanked me afterwards. At dinner, when his mother thanked us, he said he knew she would like it.
This has become our arrangement without a conversation. I enjoy choosing gifts, and he's much less interested in it. I don't mind doing it occasionally. What bothered me this time was watching him accept praise for a decision he'd barely known about until that morning.
If I make the next gift just from me, it will look pointed, and his mother doesn't need to be involved in our disagreement. If I ask him to handle it all next time, I worry I'll spend the week prompting him and checking whether he's remembered.
How do we keep giving gifts as a couple without me quietly becoming the entire couple behind the scenes?
