How do I ask about pool-party supervision without making the host feel accused?
Parenting"There will be six adults. He'll be fine," the birthday child's dad said when I asked who would watch the pool. Twelve children are invited to the party at their apartment complex. The invitation says parents can drop off.
My seven-year-old can swim one length in his lesson pool. He is proud of that and wants to arrive with his friend, whose parents are dropping her off. When I said I might stay, he asked why I didn't trust him after paying for all those lessons.
The host is planning to collect pizzas and organize the cake. Another adult is bringing decorations. I don't know whether any adult has agreed to watch the water continuously, and I haven't established whether a lifeguard will be there. Six adults could mean six people with other jobs.
I checked [CDC drowning-prevention guidance](https://www.cdc.gov/drowning/prevention/index.html). It says swimming lessons don't remove the need for close, constant supervision, and children still need adult supervision when lifeguards are present. I can offer to stay and watch my child, but I would have to rearrange a work shift.
What's a clear, courteous way to get an actual supervision plan before accepting? And how would you explain staying to a child who hears it as a judgment on his swimming?