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AITA for refusing to make early breakfast for my in-laws after my partner promised I would?

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"Mark can show you where everything is," I told my father-in-law when he thanked me for agreeing to make breakfast at six.

I hadn't agreed. My partner Mark had told his parents that I loved cooking and wouldn't mind getting up with them during their two-night visit.

I do like cooking. I had planned both dinners and made a cake for their arrival. I normally get up around eight on weekends, and Mark knows that. His parents prefer an early breakfast before going for a walk.

When his father thanked me, I looked at Mark and said I hadn't been asked. Mark said he thought I'd want to make them feel welcome. I replied that he could make breakfast himself.

His mother said toast would be enough. I said that sounded fine and showed them the bread and mugs. Mark got up with them the next morning.

Later he said the public correction made his parents feel like an unwanted chore. I said the correction was public because his promise had reached them before it reached me. We could have discussed it privately before they arrived, but he didn't mention it.

I didn't object to feeding them. I objected to being assigned the early morning, and I probably made that distinction less warmly than I could have. AITA?

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Mark was available to make the same toast you were being volunteered to make. Asking him to own the promise wasn't refusing hospitality. It put the task with the person who had offered it.

His parents hadn't made the promise, and the father was thanking you in good faith. A warmer answer could have protected them from the surprise while still correcting Mark. It's worth reassuring them that you enjoyed the visit if they seemed uncomfortable.

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