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AITA for admitting I hadn't watched my friend's play and saying I wouldn't finish the recording?

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"What did you think of the final scene?" my friend Jules asked.

I had watched eleven minutes of the recording of his three-hour amateur play. A week earlier, I'd messaged him, "You were great!" He reasonably thought that meant I'd watched it.

Jules sent the recording after I missed the live performance because I was working. I said I'd watch it that weekend. I started, got distracted, and never returned to it. When he asked whether it had arrived, I sent the compliment instead of admitting that.

At coffee I finally told him how little I'd seen. He looked hurt and asked if I would watch the rest before we next met. I said I didn't want to promise another three hours when I already knew I was unlikely to do it.

He said he hadn't asked for an essay, just for a friend to care about something he'd spent months rehearsing. I said attending every performance or watching every recording couldn't be the test of our friendship.

That sounded firmer than I felt. The immediate problem wasn't every performance. It was one I had promised to watch, followed by praise I hadn't earned the information to give. AITA for refusing to finish it after finally telling the truth?

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The broad argument about attending every performance arrived before you'd dealt with this particular promise. Jules didn't invent the idea that you would watch the recording; you gave him that expectation. Start by apologizing for the false impression rather than asking him to defend how much attention a friend can request.

Another promise you know you won't keep would make this worse. Being honest about not finishing can be the right next step even though the earlier compliment was unfair. You can own disappointing him without offering a viewing marathon as proof that you care.

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