The family video call is always at two in the morning for me. Can I ask everyone else to take a turn?
Family“You can sleep in on Sunday,” my brother said when I asked to move our monthly family call.
I live several time zones away. The time that suits my parents and siblings is two in the morning here. I managed the first few calls, but I work some Sundays and don't enjoy spending the next day recovering from a conversation I could barely follow.
Last month I missed it and said my internet was down. That was easier than admitting I had gone to bed. Mum says the whole point is having all of us together, but she also thinks changing a familiar time will mean people forget.
I miss seeing everyone. I would join a shorter call at an awkward but manageable hour, and I could take an occasional late night. I don't want the arrangement to depend on being the only person whose next morning never counts.
How do I propose a fair rotation without turning the call into a negotiation every month?