Can I stop carrying messages between my parents and my brother while they aren't speaking?
Family“Just tell him I miss him. Don't make it sound like a message,” Mum said after my brother asked for some space from our parents.
They had a serious argument, and he isn't ready to discuss it with them. I still see him. At first I passed on an invitation because Mum asked and he was willing to hear it. He declined. Since then, every visit has produced another request: tell him Dad liked his garden, find out whether he read Mum's note, explain that they weren't trying to upset him.
I have also started editing the wording to make it gentler. That means neither side knows exactly what the other person said, and I come home wondering whether I made things worse.
I care about all of them. I don't want to cut off my own relationship with my brother, and I don't want Mum to think I am indifferent to her hurt.
How do I stop being the route between them without promising to fix the disagreement myself?