Should we remove toilet-training stickers after an accident?
Parenting"Don't look at my chart," my three-year-old said when I noticed his wet trousers. He tried to stand in front of the bathroom door.
We started a sticker chart two weeks ago. I meant each sticker to celebrate using the potty. My husband began giving a larger sticker for a dry day and removed one after an accident, saying the chart showed progress honestly. Our son now asks whether an accident wipes out yesterday too.
The [NHS potty-training guidance](https://www.nhs.uk/best-start-in-life/toddler/potty-training-your-child/) suggests praising effort, including attempts that don't produce a wee or poo, and staying calm when accidents happen. Our chart has turned into a record of what can be taken away.
My husband thinks abandoning it means rewarding failure. I think we need to change what we are rewarding. We have plenty of clean clothes, and nursery is willing to discuss a shared approach. What would you tell our son about the stickers already there, and how would you agree a new routine without arguing over the chart in front of him?