Should I remove an old photo my daughter dislikes even though it matters to me?
Parenting"You keep telling everyone that was my funniest day. I didn't think it was funny." My eleven-year-old was looking at a photo I'd reposted for her birthday: her at four, crying beside a collapsed sandcastle.
I remember the whole afternoon fondly. My dad was alive then, and his hand is just visible at the edge of the picture. My daughter remembers the wave arriving and the adults laughing. A classmate repeated my caption to her at school.
I took the birthday repost down, but the original is still on my public account. She wants that removed too. I said deleting it felt like losing a piece of Dad. She asked why keeping it in our album wasn't enough. I hadn't separated keeping the photograph from keeping an audience for it.
[eSafety's guidance](https://www.esafety.gov.au/parents/issues-and-advice/privacy-child) recommends involving children in decisions about sharing their images and respecting a refusal. I can see why. I'm still finding it hard to act on this particular picture. How would you talk about the attachment without making her responsible for my grief?