My aunt shared her handwritten recipe privately. Can I post a video of my version if I leave out the recipe card?
Food"I sent that to you so you could make it, not put it online," my aunt said after I showed her a rough cut of my cooking video. I hadn't posted it yet.
She'd photographed the handwritten recipe card for a braised dish she makes at family dinners. I changed one ingredient because I couldn't find it, and the video shows my version being prepared, with the quantities in the captions. The last shot includes a corner of the card and her first name. I offered to crop that out. She said the issue wasn't her name; she didn't want the recipe shared publicly.
My cousin thinks I'm giving her control over something lots of families cook. I understand that point, but I also asked my aunt for her particular instructions, and she gave me something personal. I've spent two evenings filming and editing. A few friends are waiting because I told them I'd show how I made the dinner in my photos.
I'm asking about the family relationship, not who could claim ownership under copyright law. Is there a respectful version of this video to propose, or should I keep it private and film something else? I don't want to turn crediting her into an argument that she has to accept the exposure.