I promised to keep my sister's pregnancy news private. What can I say when Mum asks me directly?
Family“You know something, don't you?” Mum asked when I wouldn't join her guessing about why my sister had cancelled a visit.
My sister told me she is pregnant and asked me not to share it yet. She wants to tell our parents herself. I agreed. Then, when Mum asked whether anything was wrong, I said, “Everything's fine,” although I only knew what my sister had chosen to tell me.
Mum now thinks I am shutting her out. My sister says, “Just say you don't know,” but I do know, and I don't want to make a false statement that becomes another family grievance later.
There is no emergency I know about. This is a question about who gets to announce personal news. How do I keep the confidence without dropping obvious hints or pretending I can certify that everything is fine?