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How do I raise my neighbour's dog barking when she says she cannot hear it?

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“He sleeps all afternoon,” my neighbour said when I mentioned the barking. “I get home and he's on the sofa.”

She leaves at about one. On three afternoons this week, the barking began around twenty past and continued in bursts during my video calls. I can hear it through the wall beside my desk. When she comes home, it stops. That doesn't tell me why it starts, but it explains why we have different pictures of the afternoon.

I told her it was “constant,” which wasn't accurate. There are quiet gaps, and one afternoon was completely quiet. She caught that exaggeration immediately: “You said every day, and I was home on Wednesday.” Now she thinks I am building a complaint because I dislike dogs. I like this dog well enough; I dislike turning my microphone off mid-sentence.

I have written down the times for the last two days. I could give her those without trying to diagnose what is happening. She suggested I text when it starts, but I worry about sending ten messages while she is at work and cannot do anything immediately.

Would one short update at the end of each afternoon be more useful? And how do I correct “constant” without making it sound as though the actual interruptions were imaginary?

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2 community replies

Correct the exaggeration directly: “Constant was the wrong word. There are gaps, but the bursts interrupted these calls.” Owning the word she can disprove may make the times you can describe easier to hear.

Ask what kind of update she can use during work. She offered texts, so you do not have to invent a reporting system for her. One agreed message with a start time may be more useful than ten frustrated messages about the same episode.

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