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How do I explain wanting a trade when my family keeps mentioning my degree?

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At dinner, I said I’d been offered a trainee position in an upholstery workshop. My father asked, “Then what were those three years at university for?”

I have a communications degree and work in an office coordinating promotional materials. I’m good at organising the jobs, but I’m most interested when I visit the people making things. Over the past six months, I’ve spent several Saturdays helping at the workshop that has now offered the position.

I know the Saturdays weren’t the full job. I’ve seen enjoyable repairs, not every repetitive task or difficult customer. I’ve asked to spend two complete weekdays there before deciding, and I still need the training arrangement and terms explained properly.

My family hears “trainee” as starting over. I hear a chance to learn work I keep choosing in my free time.

How would you talk about this without turning the conversation into a defence of every life choice? I want to take their concerns seriously, but I don’t want the degree to decide the rest of my working life.

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The full weekdays are a sensible thing to learn from before making the choice. Ask to see ordinary work, including preparation, cleanup and jobs that aren’t interesting repairs. Your attraction has some substance already, but you’re right that a few chosen Saturdays don’t describe the whole role. Keep gathering the detail you need rather than using the family argument to hurry the decision.

“What were those years for?” makes the degree sound like a promise to stay on one path forever. You can value what you learned and still prefer different daily work. I’d explain what draws you to upholstery in concrete terms, then say you’re checking the complete arrangement before deciding. You don’t need to claim the degree was a mistake.

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