Can I seek bereavement support before I'm ready to clear my husband's clothes?

My sister arrived with donation bags and said, "If we're getting you help, let's make a start today."

My husband died six months ago. I had asked her to help me find bereavement support because I am finding ordinary days difficult. She understood that as being ready to clear his wardrobe. I meant that I wanted someone to talk to.

She has sat with me through paperwork and meals, and I can see why doing another concrete job feels useful to her. But when she began taking shirts off the hangers, I asked her to stop. Now she thinks I asked for help and rejected it as soon as it arrived.

[NHS grief guidance recognises that people feel and cope differently and describes support when coping is difficult](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/grief-bereavement-loss/). It does not turn clearing a wardrobe into an entrance requirement for support.

How do I tell my sister what I am ready to ask for without making a promise about when the shirts will leave?