Our DJ keeps introducing us with a married name neither of us chose

Our DJ keeps calling us “the future Mr. and Mrs. Bennett.”

Neither of us will be Mrs. Bennett.

My fiancé is keeping his last name. I am keeping mine. We made that decision before we were engaged and have never argued about it.

The wedding industry appears to be arguing on our behalf.

Our venue contract says “Bennett Wedding.” The bakery wrote “Congratulations, Mr. & Mrs. Bennett” on the tasting box. A sample seating chart labeled our table with a wooden B.

Each instance is small. Together, they make our actual names feel like a special request.

The DJ problem matters because he will introduce us at the reception. We wrote the exact wording on his planning form: “Please welcome the newlyweds, Emma Ruiz and Daniel Bennett.”

During our call, he read it back as, “The new Mr. and Mrs. Bennett.”

I corrected him.

He apologized and said traditional wording sometimes comes out automatically after hundreds of weddings. Five minutes later, while discussing the final song, he did it again.

My fiancé thinks we should keep correcting him and not treat habit as hostility. I do not think the DJ is making a statement about women’s names. I think he has a script so practiced that our instruction keeps disappearing inside it.

That is exactly why I am worried.

The entrance will happen once. If he uses the wrong name, the room will cheer, the moment will move forward and I will spend part of it deciding whether to correct him publicly.

My mother says most guests will assume I changed my name anyway, so the introduction would not be a serious error. That seems like an argument for accuracy, not against it.

Daniel’s grandmother has already addressed a card to “Emma Bennett.” I thanked her and did not correct the envelope. I do not need every relative trained before the wedding.

I do need the paid person holding the microphone to say the names we supplied.

We considered skipping a formal introduction. Neither of us particularly needs one. The DJ says an entrance helps gather attention before the first dance and dinner announcement.

He offered to record the wording as a note on his phone and attach it to the event file. That is helpful. I asked whether we could also print the sentence in large type on the first page of his script.

He laughed and said, “We’ll get it right.”

The laugh may have been reassurance. It felt like the request had become a little precious.

Daniel now wants to change the wording to “Please welcome Emma and Daniel” and remove surnames entirely. That eliminates the error and sounds natural.

I like it, but part of me resists solving the problem by making our names less visible. We are not embarrassed by having two surnames. We are trying to begin a marriage without pretending one of them vanished.

There is also a future question. We will receive mail with the wrong shared name. Hotels may label reservations strangely. Friends will refer to us collectively. We cannot control every shorthand people use.

The reception introduction is different because we can control it, and because it sets the first public wording after the ceremony.

Would you keep both full names, use first names only or skip the introduction? How much verification is reasonable when a professional understands the request but keeps returning to a script that contradicts it?