My partner posts our location in real time, and I want the trip to stay private

I learned we had “arrived” because my phone showed me my partner’s post.

It included the hotel lobby, the neighborhood tag, and a caption about staying here for four nights. By the time we reached the room, people knew where we were before either of us had called our families.

My partner shares trips as they happen. He likes the small exchange around them: recommendations, jokes, messages from people who have visited. Posting makes him feel connected.

It makes me feel observed.

I asked him not to tag the hotel. He removed the exact tag but kept the neighborhood. At lunch, he posted the restaurant while we were still waiting for food. Yesterday he uploaded a photograph of me on a terrace without asking. Nothing was humiliating. I simply did not know I was participating in a live broadcast.

He thinks I am treating ordinary social media like a security emergency. I think he is treating shared travel as content he owns because he took the photograph.

The argument is not about whether everyone can deduce our location. It is about consent and timing. I would be comfortable sharing selected photographs after we leave. I am not comfortable announcing our temporary routines while we are living them.

Current app privacy settings, audience controls, and location behavior need to be checked directly; turning off one visible tag may not answer every concern. But settings cannot solve a relationship rule we have not agreed on.

I want a simple boundary: no real-time lodging details, ask before posting identifiable images of me, and wait until we have left a place before sharing it. He hears that as removing the social part of travel he enjoys.

What compromise works? A private audience? Delayed posts? Separate rules for scenery and people? And if one person wants to share while the other wants privacy, whose preference should control information that reveals both of them?