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I enjoy judo but don't want to enter the next grading. How do I explain that without sounding uncommitted?

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The instructor put a grading form beside my bag and said, "You're ready. Don't hold yourself back." I'd just told him that training twice a week was enough for me this term.

I like learning and practising. The next grading would cost $65 and involve an extra session I can't easily fit around work. More than that, I don't currently want an exam to become the reason I'm turning up. When I joined, the instructor said I could train without rushing through grades.

He's been encouraging rather than threatening. He says seeing adults progress helps the newer members, and I worry that declining will look like I don't value his teaching. I haven't said that to him because it sounds a bit grand for a club evening.

Would you give the practical reasons, explain that the grading goal itself doesn't appeal right now, or simply decline this one and see how next term feels? I want to keep learning without promising a date just to end the conversation.

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If the goal itself doesn't appeal, saying only "work is busy" may invite him to solve the timetable and bring the form back. You can appreciate his assessment and still say, "I want to keep training, but I'm not choosing a grading date at the moment." That gives him the information he actually needs.

Being told you're ready can be a compliment even if you don't enter. Thank him for noticing your progress. Declining the grading doesn't have to mean rejecting his judgement or his teaching.

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