How much should I ask before my daughter's first sleepover at a friend's home?
Parenting"You're making it sound like her family is on trial," my eleven-year-old said when I asked who would be home overnight.
The invitation came from a school friend. Her mother works until eleven that evening and says the friend's older sister will be there. I don't know the sister, her age or who else will be in the house. I asked for a quick call with the mother before agreeing. She replied that the children are sensible and the details are nothing unusual.
[The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends asking who will supervise and who else will be present before a sleepover](https://www.healthychildren.org/English/safety-prevention/at-play/Pages/Questions-to-Ask-Before-a-Playdate.aspx). I want those answers. I also know the mother is fitting the celebration around work, and I don't want my questions to sound like a judgment of that.
My daughter is excited about the films and breakfast together. She says everybody else has already said yes. How would you make the inquiry clear and respectful, and explain a pause in permission without turning the host family into the problem?