AITA for posting our agreed gift budget in the family chat instead of paying extra for a frame?
AITA"The frame was another $160, so everyone owes me $20," my sister wrote in the cousins' chat, two days before our aunt's retirement dinner.
There are eight of us. We had each sent $25 for a $200 illustrated print of the house where our aunt grew up. My sister handled the order; I found the illustrator and collected the old photographs. When she suggested framing it, I said I could do the agreed $25 but couldn't add more that month. She replied, "Okay, leave it with me." I thought that meant she'd find something within the money we already had.
Instead of answering her new message privately, I posted a screenshot of that exchange and wrote, "We agreed on $25. Please don't make a purchase and hand us the bill afterward."
Two cousins immediately said they weren't paying extra either. My sister paid for the frame herself. At dinner she gave our aunt the present and said it was from all eight of us, including me. Our aunt loved it. I didn't mention the argument.
Afterward my sister said the screenshot made her look like she was trying to scam the family, when she'd only wanted the gift to arrive finished. She also said I could have asked what she meant by "leave it with me" before turning everyone against her.
I still don't think her decision created an obligation to pay. But I benefited from the finished gift, and I chose the version of the conversation that would win the group over. AITA for handling it that way?